Written by:Michelle Zauzig
One week into New Years and that resolution of yours seems to be slipping out of your hands as the holiday break wraps up and real life takes the wheel. That gym membership is looking more and more like a waste of money, the promise to not eat McDonalds seems like a joke (and you've already had a McMuffin 3 times since January 1st); your whole attitude has reverted back. What's going on? What's gone wrong? How did this road that you had paved so quickly turn to spinning your wheels in a mud pit?
The content of your resolution is why. How can you possible add one more thing to do on top of everything life expects of us. Instead of cleaning out our closet of "to-do's" and focusing in on a couple of things, we keep on throwing junk into the pile.
My New Years resolution was "to become more free". At first glance you might roll your eyes and think it sounds like an uber spiritual, hippy dippy statement. Hear me out. I don't mean free in terms of yelling 'revelry' at the top of my lungs around town. No. I mean free as cutting out what is tying me down, holding me back, and/or stressing me out. For me it's concentrating on the people that lift me up, and stop spending so much time worrying about those who truly don't want the best for me. It's letting little things go that don't matter. I DON'T have to argue everything, I can be wrong. It's letting go for feeling that every task i'm handed has to be done THAT moment, some things can wait. After all this, ya know what? I do feel more free. The feeling is so amazing, that I feel myself letting go of anything that doesn't serve me. I slowly but surely see that closet of mental junk clearing away. Maybe one day i'll even color coordinate? Probably not knowing me, but i'm very okay with that.
Try it. Make a Resolution to your resolution. What's holding you down? Is it your job? Look for a new one. Energize yourself by preparing for the next step. Revamp your resume, redo your website, put your feelers out. Let go of exhausting job-blues and instead refocus that negative energy to a positive space. Is it a relationship? Leave. Or communicate your issues, work on yourself and hope your partner will do the same. If not, they don't care enough to be worth your time anyway. Friendships that are exhausting? Reevaluate their quality of friendship to you and vise versa. Friendships should be easy. You should never feel judged, or feel guilty for exploring new things instead of hanging out with your so called 'friend'. Any true friend will always just want you to be happy. Not to say you should just cut ties, but really think about what you want out of a friend, and who you want to be as a friend and if you're giving that. Is it a new daunting project? Let go of the big picture and stressing out. Take baby steps at first... the more you concentrate on one task, the more time to have to focus on it being amazing.
Doing to many things at once is exhausting. It enables you from being able to make each thing great, and give each part it's deserved time and energy. So drop somethings. BECOME MORE FREE. I promise you'll feel so refreshed. Instead of feeling guilty for not doing new resolutions, feel energized by dropping old ones.